Do you find yourself making excuses to not see your partner?
Does your relationship get you down or leave you feeling drained?
Maybe you live with them and find yourself “walking on eggshells” so as not to upset them…
You could be in a “toxic relationship” claims life coach Michael Cloonan.
Doctor Lillian Glass, a communication and psychology expert, told Time that a toxic relationship is “any relationship [between people who] don’t support each other, where there’s conflict and one seeks to undermine the other, where there’s competition, where there’s disrespect and a lack of cohesiveness.”
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If you’re unsure about whether your relationship could be defined in this way, or what to do about it if it is, then Michael Cloonan is here to help.
He told Daily Star Online his five signs that your relationship is toxic:
Living in dread
You dread meeting the other person and you don’t like spending time with them.
Whether you are going out to a family meeting or out for dinner with your partner – if you’re worried about seeing them, it’s a red flag.
A relationship should be a positive experience.
Although joking about and laughing is a healthy part of a relationship, if they make you the butt of the jokes constantly and belittle you, it’s a bad sign.
These things are sure to slowly wear you down and make you feel badly about yourself when you don’t deserve it.
They don’t care about you or are not interested in what you have to say, they’re only interested in off-loading their own problems onto you.
If they don’t ask you anything about yourself, it shows that they’re only using you as a way to blow off steam or vent to.
A relationship is meant to be a two-way street and if they refuse to listen when you want to talk – it isn’t healthy.
They constantly do things and don’t apologise for it.
Your time is valuable and worthy of consideration, so if your partner is always turning up late or showing you up, something needs to change.
If you’ve purposely set aside time and they can’t appreciate that, then you need to take a stand.
Once is an accident but on more than one occasion is definitely part of a toxic relationship.
You’re unable to change
They dampen your success by refusing to cooperate with your wants, putting down your plans and goals, and outright prevent you from doing what you want to do.
Your success is equally as important as you are and is a big part of what makes you special.
If someone is preventing you from being a better person, it’s a sign that the relationship is unhealthy.