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Sex dream meanings explained and what each kinky one signifies

According to a new study, half of Brits (48%) dream about sex, while one in seven (15%) have thought about doing it with someone like their colleague.

In the poll by bed and mattress specialists, Bed SOS, one in 25 men (4%) have dreamt about being pregnant, while one in five (20%) have been dream cheated on.

Renowned psychologist and dream expert, Dr Keith M.T. Hearne, claims it’s useful to analyse dreams as they often have deeper meanings.

Here he explains what some of those inappropriate dreams mean.




Being cheated on by your partner (20% have had this dream):

The interpretation: Sometimes such a dream is indicating to the person that cheating is indeed happening. The subconscious is sensitive to subtle clues (e.g. pheromones) that go unnoticed consciously, and the dream is just about the only channel pf communication to the consciousness.

But equally, a person who is lacking in trust may project that issue into their relationship. If the dream occurs in each relationship, the cause is more likely to be the latter.

Sex with someone inappropriate e.g. a work colleague (15% have dreamt this):

The Interpretation: It is not unusual for human beings to be attracted to each other. In the generally friendly long-term situation of a work-place, little fantasies and flirtations often occur.

Most dreams are about our daily lives, and in REM (dreaming) sleep, a main feature is that males have a full erection, and women experience clitoral engorgement, so any friction can trigger such a dream.

Freud would have said that a part of our personality which seeks basic gratification, would be responsible. In dreams it is safe to happen and can remain unspoken.




Men dreaming of being pregnant (1 in 25 have dreamt this):

The Interpretation: Sometimes, men can feel great empathy with their partner and even experience symptoms of pregnancy. So in some cases it is a wish-fulfilment dream.

Now that the strict bi-polarity concept of the sexes is easing, this kind of dream becomes more comprehensible.

In the symbolic, metaphorical, language of the subconscious, another possibility is that it positively represents some much-loved and developing project (say, a business idea, or a building plan).

Being naked in public (11% have dreamt this):

The Interpretation: The “metaphors in motion” description of dreams often suffices to understand the real meaning. In this case, a feeling of embarrassment and shame probably accurately reveals the essential emotion, and the content symbolically displays the cause of the dream.

The dreamer should focus on what they have done or said to “show themselves up”. It may be a rebuke from the unconscious of unacceptable social behaviour. If, however, the feeling is of exhilaration, it may represent perhaps a new-found sense of freedom.

Dr Keith, who conducted the world’s first sleep-lab research into lucid dreams, explained: “Dreams, especially those that wake you suddenly, are probably best understood – not literally – but as symbolic messages, and verbal puns, from your wise unconscious.

“The emotion left on waking is probably the best indicator of whether the dream portrayed something good or bad.

”Our unconscious is very knowledgeable and is like a friend, guide and protector. It can encourage and prod us if we’re not achieving things it knows we can.”



Dreaming about your colleague happens and it’s fine to remain unspoken about it

Danny Richmond, Managing Director of Bed SOS, said: “We all hope for a restful night’s sleep, and the environment we’re in – a cool, quiet room and a comfortable bed for example – can have a big impact on the duration and quality of our sleep.

“Most people dream and sometimes they can be surprising or uncomfortable, and it can be a bit unnerving if you don’t know the meaning behind them. Hopefully our research with Dr Hearne will help put the nation’s conscious and subconscious minds at ease!”

To find out the nation’s top 10 common dreams, visit Bed SOS.

Source: dailystar.co.uk

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