The world of swinging, where couples engage in sex with others, gains a lot of attention from monogamous Brits.
Whether it’s because we can’t understand it, or secretly want to do it, there are a lot of assumptions and misconceptions around the lifestyle.
And, many non-monogamous couples want to world to know that not everything you read online is true.
So, to shed light on the truth surrounding the lifestyle, Daily Star spoke to The Swingers Wife who enjoys a non-monogamous lifestyle with her husband Mister Swinger.
Would you ever try swinging? Let us know in the comments…
The 28-year-old explained: “We started out as swingers and have come to learn we like to explore much more than that lifestyle.
“He’s more polyamorous than I, as I don’t build connections while he does and loves it.
“We’re considered an open marriage as we both freely can date or play outside of our relationship. We have had a few triad girlfriends.”
The pair enjoy going to swingers clubs and have plenty of friends in the lifestyle.
Diane said: “We host many of our own meet and greets, and events.
“We do use a few dating Apps like Bumble, Fetlife, or the new Craigslist personals Doublelist.com.”
When the pair go to clubs, they tend to enjoy a little of everything – bar solo males.
The Swingers Wife said: “I am actually what is called a cuckqueen and I absolutely love to watch my partner with women.
“But we also love couples, we are very go with the flow, and go at the their pace, just the other day we only had same room sex with a very new, very nervous couple, dabbled in some mutual cuddling and went on our way.
“As much as we love sex we want others to also enjoy themselves.”
The amount of sex involved in non-monogamous lives can often lead to misconceptions and stereotypes about swingers which aren’t true.
Diane explained: “First, people think we are not in love, or not enough.
“We just try to educate people that although they may not feel the same we are truly very happily in love and enough thats why we always come back to each other.”
She continued: “Another misconception is that I must be a ‘hotwife’ or ‘easy’.
“That frustrates me and is why my dating pool is so low – just because I enjoy recreational sex does not mean I want anybody who crosses my path, both men and women seem to think this.”
In actuality, swinging and polyamory is not all about sex – at least not to this couple.
Diane explains that she and her husband entered into their relationship and kept it open from the beginning for both their happiness.
She said: “We started out as non monogamous. I truly think that’s why we are happily married.
“I’m his third wife, and he’s either felt trapped or unsatisfied until now.
“I’ve never settled down and my dating life involved many men who wanted something I didn’t.
“I personally just felt like I was on a tight leash that I didn’t like, I could never settle down. I was bored, dissatisfied, resentful.
“I broke too many hearts learning I was actually non monogamous.”
Now, the couple are blissfully happy with their set up – and very much in love.
The Swinger’s Wife said: “We do it because it makes us happy, it builds our relationship, we both enjoy the fun and enjoyment we receive.
“Our relationship has a strong trust-and-honestly foundation: we had this before we opened up, the fact that we can be purely ourselves is what keeps our bond strong.
“It enhances our sex life by always having something new happening, we’ve rarely been bored or frustrated, but we do get burnt out sometimes.
“With swinging, I love the people, the lifestyle, the experiences we get to enjoy, but truly, honestly, for me my favourite part is that I get to share my primary partner’s joy.”
If you wan’t to learn more about non-monogamy as a lifestyle, or The Swinger’s Wife, head over to her podcast The Kinky Pineapple.
Diana said: “We live our life openly, and for those who do support us or are curious about swinging we started a podcast.
“We discuss our lifestyle, what we observe from the community, what we learn.
“We also review clubs we go to, occasionally do a skit relating to a problem or event we encounter and and answer people’s questions they have about ethical non-monogamy.”